Femme Felines

I have been wearing my natural hair for most of my childhood, but when I was 10-years-old, and entering into middle school, my mother decided to take me to the hair salon for a relaxer. She did not know how to do my hair and wanted me to feel comfortable amongst my peers. I hated relaxers, despised them actually. From ages 10-12, I got relaxers on a consistent basis even though they burned my scalp, because I had fine hair (genetically thin hair strands). I grew up in an area where white men would fly confederate flags off the back of their trucks and where some of the subdivisions had the word plantation in the name. I am telling you this background information so you can gain a general understanding as to why my mother was giving me relaxers. At 13, my friend was spending the night at my house and was telling me about her decision to go natural. This was back in 2013 when the natural hair community was just beginning to form online. She showed me youtube videos of women with beautifu

I want Black women to stop apologizing for having preferences when it comes to dating. Black women must stop caring about being viewed as racist or bigoted for who they choose to engage with romantically or sexually. We are the ones with the highest rates of domestic violence after all. We have a right to protect ourselves from harm. It’s called self preservation, and we have been guilt tripped out of practicing it by many different demographics. Never feel bad for only wanting to date the white man with three rental properties or the tall tech guy with a lot of money in the bank, especially not when several groups of men have made it very clear that they will not date a Black woman, not because they personally have had bad experiences with one, but because they hold personal bigoted beliefs about Black women due to consuming negative stereotypes about Black women in American media or have let society at large convince them out of a potentially positive and successful relationship. The

WHAT IS MISOGYNOIR?   Misogynoir is the hatred of Black females, our bodies, and what our female bodies can do. One must be female and of African descent to experience misogynoir. There are no exceptions. Black trans women do not and cannot experience misogynoir because they are genetically male . In my opinion, a big factor in the misogynoir enacted against Black women is due to the fact that we biologically produce Black males , and other races of men do not like how Black men make them feel in terms of sexuality. Sexual power is a huge part of the male identity, and this yearning for sexual power also applies to trans women who trans activists insist on force-teaming with Black women. NonBlack men will take their anger out on Black women because of the jealousy they feel about Black men’s perceived sexual power. They do not behave this way towards Black men because 1. M en respect other males , and 2. D ue to stereotypes about  Black men’s physical strength. They   do not behave